As a matter of fact, you can't ask out a trans woman online in the first place and think you should tell her that before you meet her. It's not just about taking her phone number and asking her out, or having her accept you on Facebook or Instagram and text you out. However, you don't need to and shouldn't text the transgender person you're supposed to be dating every day. That's where the problem comes in. Don't text a transgender woman, don't text a transgender woman on Facebook who is already a fan, and let the suspense build. Men think they have to continue selling themselves even after she says "yes," which is why they often screw up. People who text too much or text too much on Facebook become vulnerable. Instead of remaining silent and building mystery and intrigue with transgender women, they create dullness and suspicion. When you go on a trans date, don't put your thoughts into words. Instead, text (or text) a trans woman and ask her to arrange a trans date for you. Then, and only then, can you text her and tell her that you're either excited about the trans date, that you're going to meet her at a certain time, or that you're going to be five minutes late, that you're going to meet her at a certain time. That's all. Nothing.
There are a lot of men who want to stun trans women and keep the this ftm hookup relationship going. Nothing could be worse. If you have this idea, or you know someone who has this idea, you or they need more than transgender dating advice. If someone thinks that this advice simply doesn't hold water, they will have serious self-esteem and/or psychological problems. Not only is this the worst trans dating advice for men, it's also the worst advice for humans!
If the transgender woman you're dating wants to leave you, let her! While this may be difficult, it can only get worse if you involve your children. Children create more drama, more problems, and more divisive relationships. It doesn't work. I've worked as a transgender dating coach for more than five years, with thousands of clients, with some of the best experts in the world, and I've never heard of a child who saved a doomed relationship.
If there is no other reason, having children may cover up these problems for a period of time. But if a transgender woman wants to get out of her commitment to you, sticking a band-aid through a bullet hole will never work. If you want a baby, wait until you're ready. For yourself, for transgender women, and most importantly for your children. Unwanted children are children born with burdens. It's not fair to them. It's not fair to you.